Impact Of Diabetes On Your Marriage

Both hypoglycemia and hyperglycemia have an impact on the energy levels and moods of the person. Fluctuating blood sugar levels can cause a person to be cranky and irritable and in certain cases abusive and violent. If not checked these behavior patterns continue to persist, causing a strain in the couple's relationship.

Long term diabetics can suffer from some amount of damage to the nervous system which has direct connection with male erection. Hence with diabetes men may suffer from erectile dysfunction. According to Dr. P. Satya murthi, "a number of men actually discover that they are diabetic when they come to the doctor seeking treatment of erectile dysfunction."

In the case of women, those who suffer from diabetes have low arousal. They also tend to have recurring vaginal inflammation. Most people suffering from hyperglycemia need to urinate frequently during the night. This disturbs the sleep pattern and contributes to irritability. Besides, this constant movement in the room while one is asleep can cause disturbance to your partners sleep as well.

Most people suffering from type 2 diabetes suffer from sleep apnea This causes a person to snore. This again can become a bone of contention between the partners.

Fluctuation of blood sugar levels during moments of intimacy may cause undue emotional strain and stress. Sometimes due to lack of energy levels induced by diabetes, people feel very lethargic. This "clinical condition" is often misinterpreted as lack of love and appreciation by one's partner. As Prabhu says, "My wife says she feels abandoned when I feel lethargic due to a fall in sugar level. (this was before we knew what was causing it) And it became an issue that almost drove our relationship to the brink of separation."

Though one needs to be a little careful, it is not impossible for a diabetic to lead a perfectly happy and blissful married life. Just follow some of these simple rules-

-Include a moderate amount of exercise in your everyday schedule.

-Keep a check on the  kind of food you eat ( a little bit of sugar and sweets is o.k  but largely avoid sweet and oily food)

-Consult your doctor regularly

-Sangita Kanjilal
Source : blog.bharatmatrimony.com

Happily Ever After

Reality bites

It was a dream come true for Amit and Sumitha. In a classic case of love at first sight, the two software professionals tied the knot in a fairy tale wedding, promising to be devoted to each other for the rest of their lives. But soon reality set in. Working in shifts, they hardly found time for each other. Sumitha, a socially active person, found it embarrassing when Amit failed to turn up at parties and social events. On the other hand, Amit who was beginning to see less and less of his wife, found solace from a female colleague. One thing lead to another. Resentments grew, insults were hurled and what began as 'happily ever after' ended bitterly at the court halls.

What the statistics say

A survey has revealed that divorce rates have soared in country, especially among young software professionals in the growing metropolises. Studies conducted among Bangalores software professionals showed that in a single unit of 100 employees, nine divorce cases were filed during the three months of the investigation. Lawyers say software professionals or those married to them file the maximum number of cases for divorce. A chat with Dr. RaviShankar Rao, a practicing psychologist from Bangalore reveals some problems that young urban couples confront. In the ‘honeymoon’ period, couples tend to camouflage any feeling of unease or discomfort with one another. Says Dr. Rao, 'Marital discords surface when personalities and attitudes mismatch which leads the partner to be vulnerable to pressures at work and develop close relationships outside marriage'.

Wo(men)

“Urban marriages are quite unique”, says Dr. Rao. Women are more empowered and financially secure than their traditional counterparts. They have begun to assert their social independence and question the expectations that come with traditional marriages. “Economic independence has changed the psychological make-up and psycho-sexual relationship among partners.”

Attitudes and values regarding gender roles have changed. Greater value is placed on women’s economic achievements and men’s involvement with children. Does that mean the working-woman is materialistic? According to Dr. Rao, the woman is still a traditional person at heart. However, the rules are spread out between the couple. Men are as involved with the children as women are and the necessities of sharing work is increasing considerably.

Having fought at workplace for survival, growth and identity, women have higher expectations from both their partners and themselves.

Till the job do us part

As the service sector booms, a new breed of couples has entered the marital world: those who work shifts. Less time spent with your spouse, absence from social and family events are some of the drawbacks that couples like Rohan and Soumya have to face. "He works crazy hours and sometimes I do not see him for three or four days at a stretch," complains Soumya, a P.R officer.

There are couples who meet on weekends, says Dr. Rao. It is the same case with long-distance relationships. With each partner chasing their career, it is only natural that such spouses get frustrated by the lack of normal, active companionship. The solution is to make the best of a bad situation.

Late Marriges

Another factor affecting marital success is the growing occurrence of late marriages. Many men and women prefer to settle down in their careers before getting married or postpone their marriage due to financial predicaments. When they do get married they are well into their thirties when it is not medically advisable to have a child in the late years. This leads to further misunderstandings between the couple.

Honey, I am sorry

Anger destroys relationships. When frustrated and angry, most couples have trouble restraining their ire. Insults are hurled leading to hurt and bitterness. Dr. Rao’s advise to couples is to approach the issue with a calm and composed mind. Tell yourself that you are going to sleep on it. And if not able to avoid a confrontation, sit down and settle the issue giving no room for egoistic feelings. It is better to forgive and apologise than build resentment and destroy the relationship. This method has worked with 99% of the couples who come for advise, he says.

It takes Two to Tango

Dr. Rao opines that a relationship is built brick-by-brick. He advises young couples to respect differences and develop understanding. When you get into a relationship, enjoy the richness that it offers. A relationship can only be sustained with love and affection, sharing and caring. Trust makes it stronger and more mature.

 

Dr. Ravishankar Rao completed his MBBS from Bangalore Medical College, Bangalore, India, in 1976 and his MD in Psychological Medicine from the National Institute of Mental Health Neurosciences (NIMHANS), Bangalore in 1980. His areas of interest are General Psychiatry and Consultation Liaison Psychiatry.

Source : blog.bharatmatrimony.com

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